Best Dating Sites

Who else is just starting out with online dating? Are you spending a lot of time pursuing the different sites before you start? If you are anything like I was when I first started dating online…the simple truth is that you are most likely wasting tons of time right now! It’s true….when I first decided to start trying to meet people online, after a long relationship came crashing to an end….I must have spent a month (or more) just looking for the right site to join.

What a mistake!

Dating Site Reviews

Regardless of what the companies who manage the sites try and tell you….there really is NOT so much difference between the different online dating services. There are men looking for women. There are women looking for men. Some of the sites cater to men looking for men….AND women looking for women as well..:-) That – and the SIZE of the service itself, is really the ONLY variable, that in my experience, plays a part in how much you’ll get out of the site.

Here is what I’ve learned after belonging to, or subscribing to, just about EVERY online dating service around over the last 5 years..:-)

Size is Important! The bigger the site, the more members available….the MORE fun you are going to have. Why? Selection…pure and simple. A smaller “niche” service may sound good, but in reality, dating is about a numbers game…and having options. The more options that are available to you, especially if you are new, the more likely it is that you’ll find someone who really is perfect for you across the board.

Be BOLD! And I mean men and women alike. I’m going to tell you the truth: I love to write and send emails, and do instant messaging, and all sorts of more “passive” get to know you sort of stuff. I truly believe, my own shyness in getting over the online “hump” and just making REAL dates, and real phone calls, probably cost me a bunch of really good potential matches. Why? Because I probably waited too long….and women that were waiting for me to ask for a phone number, or actual date got tired of waiting and simply went out with others who were more aggressive. My lesson? Just get out there and have fun – you ONLY live once, and just because it’s called online dating, does NOT mean you should be slow to move to the “real” world if you like someone.

And be yourself, too! So many people I’ve met were so much different in person, than they were online….that it’s hard to reconcile the two! (and they were MORE than fine in person….just very different than how they came across online) The key is this: Just be comfortable in your own skin. If you’re shy…don’t act like an extrovert online, just to get dates. (only to be shy and quiet when you meet in person!) Don’t mislead people about your appearance, or dating objectives. Just be you! The beauty of dating online is that you WILL find someone who DOES (or will) love you just for who you are right now…and not who you THINK they want you to be!